When communicating with a child, tone, style, choice of words and our attitude towards them are very important.
After all, it is from us, adults, that children learn to communicate with the whole world. Therefore, let’s look at a few basic principles that will help you talk to your child correctly.
- Speak openly and honestly. Children feel when adults are sincere and when they are trying to hide something. If you can’t answer your child’s question, don’t be shy to admit it. Give yourself permission to be a person, not an all-knowing parent.
- Listen to your child. Often adults interrupt children or do not pay attention to what they are saying. This can undermine their self-confidence. Give your child a chance to express their thoughts and feelings.
- Respect your child’s feelings. If a child tells you about his fears, do not laugh at them. If he gets upset, don’t tell him he’s overdoing it. Instead, show him that you understand and accept his feelings.
- Use simple and clear phrases. Complex words and phrases can be confusing for a young child. Instead, keep it simple and clear.
- Explain the reasons for your actions. If you tell your child “no,” explain why you decided that. This will help your child understand your point of view and learn to make smart decisions.
- Be patient. Your child may ask many questions that may seem meaningless to you. But it’s important to him. Be patient and answer all questions.
- Don’t criticize your child. Criticism can harm a child’s self-esteem. Instead, reward him when he does something well and help him correct his mistakes.
